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Is Support Necessary?

Posted in Breast Cancer by Joede on the February 24th, 2009

Ok, I’ve complained about the lack of support I have. I just read an article last week that said breast cancer survivors rates of survival went up by an additional 50% if they were part of a support group. I have several reasons for not joining a group:

1. I’m too tired!
2. I don’t want to hear other people’s sad stories. Sad, but true.
3. I want the focus to be on me. I’m not in a very compassionate mood right now.

Tell me, if you have gone through a challenge: did you utilize a support group? Was it useful?

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  1. PurpleJ3nn said,

    on February 24th, 2009 at 8:37 pm

    I refused to join support groups. I feel as though listening to other people whine is not going to help me. Yes, I have my down days… but overall, I think I am my own best support system… I watch movies & TV shows that make me laugh, I do things that make ME happy, I do things I want to do… I LIVE how I want to live…
    For me, so long as I am smiling and laughing, I don’t think I will need a support group… or rather they don’t need me — I’m not one for treating someone like a delicate flower just cause they’re sick and whiny.

    If you don’t think it will help you… don’t bother… we all find our support in different places…

    Take care! {{HUGS}}

  2. Jenifer said,

    on February 25th, 2009 at 1:06 am

    I think some sort of support is really good. I have my own medical problems and I would love to feel that people care and understand. But I do understand that not everyone needs it.

  3. Joede said,

    on February 25th, 2009 at 2:17 pm

    Jennifer – Do you feel like you are able to give adequate support to others in your support group?

  4. bliss said,

    on March 27th, 2009 at 7:32 am

    I was in a life-changing (but not life-threatening) situation that I needed support for.

    But I didn’t want it to be known because I was very angry about the situation. So I started going to a spiritual center that helped me focus on positive things that took me away from the negative energy and thoughts I was giving my situation.

    It helped immensely.

    But everyone is different.

    If you feel like you don’t want to be part of a group, then don’t push yourself. If you’re tired then your body needs to rest.

    Do what feels right for you, right now. Maybe one day you WILL feel like joining a group. Maybe not…

    Either way, God bless and I’ll be sending positive thoughts your way. :o )

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